Blog post written by pH Clinic resident Psychotherapist Eloise King.
As both a Psychotherapist and a Coach, I know this time of year can challenge people’s commitment to their own health and mental wellbeing. Many get caught in a whirlwind of celebrations, obligations, endless to-do lists and unintentional people-pleasing. While culturally the “silly season” is a time to be merry, underneath all the overt Christmas cheer lies the very real potential for heightened stress, overwhelm and exhaustion. For some, it’s the excess of “naughty” foods and drink that do them in; for others, it’s the unhealthy habit of comparison, stacking their staycation (#cosi-livs) against the Jones’s “nice” big trip to Vale for snow fun and apres fireside schnapp-chats.
Sigh.
Furthermore, we know that loneliness is on the rise. So, as the world bustles along with a champagne-fuelled smile and a Jingle Bells soundtrack playing in the hot summer air, for some, their invites for eggnog (or whatever Australia’s version of that is) never arrive. If any of this sounds like you, do not despair. I’m here for you and have a Santa-sized sack full of practical tips. I hope that they help keep you grounded as we roll onto the runway for Christmas this year.
1. Set Realistic Expectations
If perfectionism is something that plagues you, remember that not everything needs to be picture-perfect. No-one will have an aneurism if you forget the shiny bauble-filled cloches or the best festive bon-bons money can buy. Focus on what truly matters—connection, kindness, and meaningful moments with loved ones. Let go of the pressure to do it all or have things look a particular way.
2. Pause to Prioritise Self-Care
Carve out time for yourself to stay connected to your deeper values and True Self goals. Whether it’s a quiet walk, journaling, or simply taking a deep breath, even small acts of Self-care can help you recharge and stay sane. Remember: saying “no” to others is sometimes saying “yes” to your wellbeing.
3. Be Where You Are At
The holiday season often pulls us into future worries, past regrets, or unhealthy comparisons, as we head towards some natural end-of-year reflection. Do whatever it takes to accept where you’re at (warts and all), collate learnings from the year just gone and get present with the feeling of all you have to be grateful for.
4. Plan for Challenges by Setting Intentional Boundaries
Family gatherings can be fun, but they can also be emotionally challenging. Set boundaries to protect your mental health. If you know certain topics, people or interactions are going to feel overwhelming, prepare for them in advance. What will you say if Aunty B, who likes a drink, won’t stop asking personal questions? It’s okay to step away or redirect conversations you don’t want to enter into.
5. Manage Finances Wisely
Gift-giving can quickly lead to financial stress. Set a budget and stick to it. Remember, thoughtful gestures and experiences often mean more than extravagant presents. In our family, everyone has the same spending limit on presents ($100 for one person randomly selected out of a hat, and $50 for everyone else) which means spending across the tribe is contained and can be budgeted for.
6. Limit Alcohol and Sugar
So easy for me to write, yet often so hard to do. While it’s tempting to indulge, and can be so fun in the moment, excessive amounts of alcohol and sugar will impact your mood and energy levels. Enjoy these things in moderation and stay well-hydrated to give your body and mind the best hope of staying balanced.
7. Keep Sleeping
Never before has the conversation about the research-based benefits of sleep been so loud. None of this changes because Christmas is on its way. Maintaining good sleep rituals over the “silly season” will support your energy, your mood, and your resilience levels so you can enjoy any meaningful Christmas moments to the fullest.
8. If Alone, Make Your Connection About True Self Values and Desires
While there is a lot to be said for the power of volunteering over the Christmas period for connection, you could also try committing to a personal project that requires quality time and space to work through and complete. Do you have a book in you? Have you been promising yourself you will develop a meditation practice? Is there a fitness swim, run or adventure you could start training for? Or is it the perfect time to buy and train a puppy?
9. Seek Support If Needed
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or struggling emotionally with stress, relational conflict, lack of clarity or loneliness, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Talking to a trusted friend, Psychotherapist or Coach can make all the difference. pH Clinic is not far away and I’m always here for you. Book in with me via the link here
Lotsa love to you this Christmas 2025!
Kindest,
Eloise
